HAPPY FEBRUARY!
Glad to be here and glad you’re here too! We don’t get to live life among others exactly the way we want to. Even as much as we might want someone to fill a certain role in our lives, they have to want to do it.
Three things I have learned…
1) People don’t always know how much I care in order to reciprocate.
2) People want change just because I stays on them.
3) People generally change when they themselves come to realize what they might lose if they don’t or the discomfort of doing things differently is better than the pain of not.
It is our caring for others that makes us work as hard as we do to build relationships. But trying to change someone to satisfy what we want for them can cause stress and discomfort. It’s like trying to thread the small eye of a needle with thick yarn or trying to smash a square peg into a round hole.
We have to find boundaries in our lives – when to say no, when to say yes and when to let go. Having boundaries mean knowing what or who to let go of instead of holding on too tight. This can be difficult especially when we think we need something or that someone need us. Sometime the harder we try to change something (to get it like we want it) or remake an individual (into who we would like them to be), things and situations gets worse. But when we focus on changing ourselves the world around us change for the better.
The more I live and learn the more I discover how to love and know how important it is to love myself first. The hardest of all was moving past my expectations of others. I had to learn to be patient to hear with an open mind lessons that are often laid before me. Learning patience has helped to face the struggles I come up against as I travel through life in the face of pain and suffering. I find now when I accept people as they are, and respond to reality of life as it is, it’s becoming much easier to love people and life as it is.
When we nurture ourselves to be strong and healthy to support our self we heal and find peace within to journey through life.
“Lord, help me to accept the things I can’t change and the wisdom to know I can only change myself”.
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